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"I feel like I am your mistress"
Talking with my wife of 30 years last night as I recalled my adventures at sea and how the sea still calls me. Told her a sailor is married to the sea, and keeps a mistress at home. She pipes up with, "I feel like I am your mistress and you are married to your bikes." I simply could not argue with that point of view. She may just be right.
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Dear Ti: At least you only cheat with her.
Abby |
Originally Posted by TiHabanero
(Post 21108380)
Talking with my wife of 30 years last night as I recalled my adventures at sea and how the sea still calls me. Told her a sailor is married to the sea, and keeps a mistress at home. She pipes up with, "I feel like I am your mistress and you are married to your bikes." I simply could not argue with that point of view. She may just be right.
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Originally Posted by tihabanero
(Post 21108380)
............... she pipes up with, "i feel like i am your mistress and you are married to your bikes." ...................
Today is wife's 69th birthday. Been married 46 years :love: and yet I left her this morning at 1:09AM and climbed on my Paramount. We were together for 38 miles. It was an exhausting engagement. Didn't light up after but did hit the couch for a snooze. :lol: |
Hmmmm. Maybe it's my overactive imagination, but in a lot of ways, isn't that a good thing?
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As a sailor, I get it. My wife says when I get squirrely "do you need a bike ride?"
or "do you need to go fishing?" |
I feel like I am your mistress
Originally Posted by TiHabanero
(Post 21108380)
Talking with my wife of 30 years last night as I recalled my adventures at sea and how the sea still calls me. Told her a sailor is married to the sea, and keeps a mistress at home. She pipes up with, "I feel like I am your mistress."
I simply could not argue with that point of view. She may just be right.
Originally Posted by RockiesDad
(Post 20243450)
I love my bike and I'm always looking and admiring it from afar. :)I keep it in the house and I can look at it daily…
I don't think I'm obsessed but I do like my bike. Anyone else feels this way? I hope you guys don't just throw your bikes in the garage afteryou ride and forget about it till the next time especially high end $$$bikes... What are your thoughts on your bike?
Originally Posted by El Cid
(Post 17185688)
I feel conflicted about this. I'd like to say I cherish my bike, but I do beat it up pretty badly. I give it good care and maintenance though, so I guess that counts.
Originally Posted by Walter S
(Post 17199087)
Hmmm. Do you cherish your wife?:rolleyes:
Originally Posted by Bigbus
(Post 20245060)
And here I thought it was just me.
Originally Posted by Jim from Boston
(Post 20248158)
…I have posted on a few occasions this tribute to my bikes:
Originally Posted by Jim from Boston
(Post 17198902)
"Do you cherish your bike?"
Agree. My pristine carbon fiber bike is especially cherished because I don't take it out in the rain. My beater mountain bike is also cherished even though I take it out anywhere, any time. As a year round cycling commuter, the bikes have an added significance and importance for my lifestyle. Most importantly, my bikes are very personalized for fit and quality, perfectly for my encompassing cycling lifestyle. Shopping for a new one is a challenging and unwanted hassle, as when my cherished and classic Bridgestone RB-1 was totalled. So as Merriam Webster expects by their definition [of cherish], I will “hold dear, feel/show affection for, keep/cultivate with care and affection, and entertain/harbor in the mind deeply and resolutely (as in my daydreams and planning about riding)” my bikes, as long as we both shall live.
Originally Posted by Viking55803
(Post 18114778)
… It's not about the clothes or the bike, true, but a well-fitted and finely-tuned bicycle is a marvelous machine and many cyclists come to feel love and affection for these inanimate objects. I even coined a term: velosexual, for those that carry more affection for their bike than their partners!...
Originally Posted by Jim from Boston
(Post 18115032)
When I first joined Bike Forums in 2008, I posted in my Introduction…But I don’t think many discussed “velosexuality” in those days.
Originally Posted by Viking55803
(Post 18115100)
I am totally against marriage equality for velosexuals - it's bound to end badly!
Originally Posted by Jim from Boston
(Post 18115119)
The next thing you know, Boston Red Sox Fans will want to marry NY Yankee Fans. :notamused:
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Originally Posted by TiHabanero
(Post 21108380)
Talking with my wife of 30 years last night as I recalled my adventures at sea and how the sea still calls me. Told her a sailor is married to the sea, and keeps a mistress at home. She pipes up with, "I feel like I am your mistress and you are married to your bikes." I simply could not argue with that point of view. She may just be right.
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As a former sailor who really enjoyed seeing the World (as a younger man) - I get it as well.
There is nothing more refreshing/pleasurable than standing in the forecastle and watching dolphins play in the bow's wake, only open ocean in sight. Luckily many Navy cruises were on a Supply ship steaming independently from the Task Force formations and during UNREP all but the carriers maintained station on ME. Married 32 years and a consistent adult cyclist a bit longer the wife regularly tells me, "Go ride your bikes! (plural)" She's never stated a feeling of being relegated by the bikes, but ..... She knows The Bike is elemental to my well being. https://cimg3.ibsrv.net/gimg/bikefor...b4eeb49c83.jpg Fendered https://cimg4.ibsrv.net/gimg/bikefor...6019c6e58d.jpg Pampered https://cimg5.ibsrv.net/gimg/bikefor...df40e31e88.jpg Hammered |
Originally Posted by Wildwood
(Post 21109304)
…Married 32 years and a consistent adult cyclist a bit longer
the wife regularly tells me, "Go ride your bikes! (plural)" She's never stated a feeling of being relegated by the bikes, but ..... She knows The Bike is elemental to my well being.
Originally Posted by Jim from Boston
(Post 7055901)
… In Ann Arbor MI in the 70’s I really realized the utility of bicycles for commuting, and began touring on a five-speed Schwinn Suburban, but soon bought a Mercier as did my girlfriend, later my wife. We toured in Michigan and Ontario.
Originally Posted by Maelochs
(Post 18537653)
What a coincidence that your wife and girlfriend both ride the same bikes. Do they ride together?
Originally Posted by Jim from Boston
(Post 19215725)
…BTW, my wife is a nurse, and she tended me well during my three month convalescence from my cycling accident. Our relationship was early on very bicycle-centered, including a cross-country cycling honeymoon, so she does not give me a hard time about continuing cycling.
I kid her that's because we have one family car, and it's hers (and our son's) since I cycle commute and do errands. When I do ride in nasty weather though she does chide me, "You just want to ride today so you can write about it on BikeForums." :notamused: |
Lost my bride to her 10 year battle with breast cancer 6 months ago. After 32 plus years of marriage. She did finally a few years ago have me get her a road bike and we road a few times. Not a lot beutshe tried and did ok really. I remember on particular ride very slow pace almost 4 years ago after she finished some hard chemo. She was pretty happy and I must admit for me I was but it was terrible slow pace for me about 12-14 mph on flat ground. What I would not do right now to go on a very slow ride with her today...………...
But she would be the first to point out I made sure I got a run or a ride in for the day under most circumstances and my priorities could get messed up. It was easy to put off things and go for ride including be more attentive to her. But you know...…...I am sure she is in the Communion of Saints because if she is not...………...this deacon has no hope. Moral...………...tell your bride you love her and enjoy. |
Funny, the custom ti fix gear I am about to ride for Cycle Oregon is my mistress. But that is mistress as in the feminine of "master", ie she runs the show, not me. And she is very much a "she". Quick race steering. If I am not gentle, she's a wild ride, but smooth as silk if I am gentle but firm.
For Cycle Oregon, she just got a full makeover - high-end paint job for her steel fork with her name in script runing down the right blade. (Jessica J). The ti is brushed out, the decals are new. Shes going in her favorite blue dress (A 43 tooth Campy BMX chainring in blue anodizing - Campy did a run of colorful track chainrings in I guess the '90s to sell to the BMX crowd when 144 BCD was popular there.) And closer to topic - one of the reasons for me staying single is my love of riding alone. (Sounds funny as I head off to be with 2000 others, but doing many miles of solo riding in magic country is always easy to do at CO.) I did try the marriage gig but it only lasted 6 years, during which my riding suffered. Ben |
Originally Posted by deacon mark
(Post 21109330)
Lost my bride to her 10 year battle with breast cancer 6 months ago. After 32 plus years of marriage. She did finally a few years ago have me get her a road bike and we road a few times. Not a lot beutshe tried and did ok really. I remember on particular ride very slow pace almost 4 years ago after she finished some hard chemo. She was pretty happy and I must admit for me I was but it was terrible slow pace for me about 12-14 mph on flat ground. What I would not do right now to go on a very slow ride with her today...………...
But she would be the first to point out I made sure I got a run or a ride in for the day under most circumstances and my priorities could get messed up. It was easy to put off things and go for ride including be more attentive to her. But you know...…...I am sure she is in the Communion of Saints because if she is not...………...this deacon has no hope. Moral...………...tell your bride you love her and enjoy. This is beautiful Deacon Mark. -Tim- |
"Luckily many Navy cruises were on a Supply ship steaming independently from the Task Force formations"
You lucky duck! Was stationed on a carrier, 7th fleet. The most enjoyable times were standing out on the flight deck at 3am in the Indian Ocean with the sea as smooth as glass, the stars brightly lighting the sky, and near absolute silence. Only noise coming was from the bow cutting its way through the water. Pure magic. Brought me close to our creator, and it has stayed that way. I truly love the sea. Conversely the most fun was passing through the Bering Straits in the dead of winter. Darned cold and rough seas, but really something else to experience. Only thing close to topping that was a seriously nasty storm we steamed pass. Walking on the bulkheads. Imagine an air craft carrier being tossed around like a toy boat in the bathtub! That was some storm! |
My wife is named Marie.
My Lightning P-38 is also named Marie. Just do the math …:love: |
that's not so bad
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Oh yeah!
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Well, if your wife feels like she's your mistress, time's a-wasting. start making whoopee!
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I don't know.
As one who has gone through divorce, I tend to take things like this more seriously than most. There was a thread where the wife spent all her free time riding with groups of men and the husband asked if she could get some female friends to hang with and spend some time with him. There was another where a guy hid a $2k bike from his wife and she was beyond furious. "When is it OK to lie to your wife about how much things cost" threads come up from time to time. People make jokes about these threads but some of them are indications of serious problems in people's marriage, or at a minimum, a disordered understanding of what marriage really is. Maybe the OP's wife said it jokingly and I hope so. "I feel like your mistress" however, could be the the OP's wife trying to tell him something which to her, is serious. Only the OP and his wife know for sure but it might be time to book a long getaway weekend, something which is nowhere near a bicycle museum. The jokes are funny and everyone has to live their own life but I hope train wrecks don't happen because people failed to see the signs. -Tim- |
I agree with Tim. Been there, done that, got what's left of the bloody t-shirt. All relationships are built on the CAT principle: Communication, Acceptance, and Trust. People generally fail at the first part, which gradually destroys the second and third.
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Originally Posted by deacon mark
(Post 21109330)
Lost my bride to her 10 year battle with breast cancer 6 months ago. After 32 plus years of marriage. She did finally a few years ago have me get her a road bike and we road a few times. Not a lot beutshe tried and did ok really. I remember on particular ride very slow pace almost 4 years ago after she finished some hard chemo. She was pretty happy and I must admit for me I was but it was terrible slow pace for me about 12-14 mph on flat ground. What I would not do right now to go on a very slow ride with her today...………...
But she would be the first to point out I made sure I got a run or a ride in for the day under most circumstances and my priorities could get messed up. It was easy to put off things and go for ride including be more attentive to her. But you know...…...I am sure she is in the Communion of Saints because if she is not...………...this deacon has no hope. Moral...………...tell your bride you love her and enjoy. |
Originally Posted by frogbiscuit
(Post 21108980)
As a sailor, I get it. My wife says when I get squirrely "do you need a bike ride?"
or "do you need to go fishing?" Do you name your bikes? In college I named a boat after a girlfriend. Bad idea. Not as bad as a girlfriend tattoo. |
LOL, my wife of 39 years has always called either my motorcycles, (don't ride them anymore) or my bikes/trikes, "MY MISTRESS"! ;) She's been perfectly happy as that's the only "affair" I've ever wanted that didn't involve "HER"! :)
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Originally Posted by Pouhana
(Post 21115048)
Sailors name their boats. All but 3 of my larger boats I have owned had female names.
Do you name your bikes? In college I named a boat after a girlfriend. Bad idea. Not as bad as a girlfriend tattoo.
Originally Posted by Karmajack
(Post 20252011)
That is, if you give your bikes names. if you don't, cool. This thread has probably been done before, but what the heck….
So, do you have silly names for your bikes? What are they and why? Pic's welcome…
Originally Posted by oldnslow2
(Post 20252216)
Please stop.
I understand naming a boat, since men would go to sea for months/years and the boat was their lady. But car, no and bike...hell no. Did you name your dishwasher and lawnmower? This thread has been done before with virtually the same title:
Originally Posted by Jim from Boston
(Post 17553097)
"What is your bike's name?"
Though I certainly cherish all the bikes I have had as an adult, it never occurred to me to name them. FYA, I recently started a thread on the Commuting Forum, ”Describe Your Commute” (link) on a template, and one of the items is “Bike Name.” This was suggested by the subscriber, @chephy, who had originally used the idea. Most of the replies either listed the model name or left it blank, with a minority giving a name (or comments). Few examples:
Originally Posted by jimmuller
(Post 17496502)
Bike name: I could go with Nao, Gina, Francis, Mario, but that would be silly.They don't have names other than Peugeot, Motobecane, Raleigh, Masi, Centurion,Bianchi, Bertin.
Originally Posted by chephy
(Post 17497370)
Bike name: Still haven't named it!
Originally Posted by harshbarj
(Post 17512507)
Bike name: Who names their bike? Insane.
Originally Posted by bmthom.gis
(Post 17530684)
I'll do a 2nd one for my mixed commute:
Bike name: the panty dropper - because the teal frame with purple accents gets all the girls to throw their panties as I ride by Then there were: Byron (@Irwin7638), Ridley (@Buffalo Buff), Ginger(@GARiverTrail Rdr), and Trucka' (@JoeyBike). BTW, chephy, as mentioned above, is an ardent advocate of bike naming.
Originally Posted by chephy
(Post 17493528)
Below is the summary of my major commutes.
Bike name: I wasn't naming bikes yet Bike name: Quicksilver a.k.a. Quickie because it was quick (compared to bikes I've had up to that point anyway) and silver, and yes, I name my bikes, okay? Anybody has a problem with that? No? Good!
Originally Posted by chephy
(Post 17493528)
Bike name: Miyata:Blackberry TART (Toronto Area Rapid Transportation) a.k.a. Blacky /Specialized: BLack IMP (shortened to Blimpy, 'cause it's lighter than air)
Bike Name: Steve Bauer a.k.a. Stevie Bike name: Haven't named this one; no need since there was only one bike in the household so "the bike" worked fine. Plus, I knew I'd only have it for a few months. Bike name: Haven't named this one either! Why not?? I should... "I saw a woman wearing a sweat shirt with "Guess" on it...so I said "Implants?" :lol: Funny, at least to another greybeard. |
Not really. My other "thing" is guitars, and I don't name them either. I did name my truck Betty, she's a big girl (RAM 2500 with a 3" lift)
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