You are looking at bike with too low of a frame stack for what you are wanting. Probably because you are looking at what looks aesthetically pleasing to you and not what meets your wants for position. Don't buy a bike that doesn't get your hands up at the height you wish. There are plenty made that have them higher. You might even look at a road bike or gravel bike in the certain models that have a high stack height.
The BMC Alpenchallenge has a stack height that is going to put your hands in the same place that the average road bike does, which apparently is lower than you wish. A Specialized Roubaix which is a road bike will put your bars and hands quite a bit higher than what the BMC will. There are some gravel bikes that have a higher stack still.
Some brands of bicycle don't make bikes for a very relaxed fit that you desire. So you might need to look at more brands than just BMC.