Originally Posted by
sapporoguy
Thanks for the great perspectives, all. The "And then you have to talk and talk" angle hadn't really occurred to us, and while we're generally sociable, we often are less so after a day of pedaling.
+1. I don’t want to feel like I have to choose between obliging or coming off as rude.
The first time we stayed with a (non-Showers) host crossing the country (there were 13 of us), I felt uncomfortable, especially because the house was on the small side. The second time was much better because the host was a former bike tour leader. I think he knew how to give us space, and the house was much larger. The third time was somewhere in the middle, but again, it was a pretty large house.