You are putting way to much weight on your arms and wrists. Contrary to what you might think, Kontact is giving you good advice. You need to put more of your weight to the rear, literally, and to do that, you need to move the seat back and lower the handle bars. When sitting comfortably on the seat (sit bones on the wide part) you should be able to slowly lower yourself forward and you hands should land perfectly on the hoods with your eyes closed. I'm assuming your seat is at the correct height and angle which is easy to figure out. Good luck, we're looking forward to the pic because that will say a thousand words.