Seems like you like a large frame for your physical size and a relaxed riding position. I am the opposite of you, I see a lot of people riding a too large frame with their seat slammed and the bars/stem jacked up too high. I like a smaller frame and an aggressive or at least a semi-aggressive position on the bicycle.
I like a good bit of saddle to bar drop, goodly amount of seat post extension and a tight frame. My most important consideration is top tube C/C. Standover is important, I like to see at least some. With the cycling shoes on, there should be ideally approximately 1.5 inches between ground and hard contact.
Frame size labeling is obsessed over, it does not matter what the stated frame size is, measure the dang (effective) top tube.