I hear ya! Recumbency is my answer to that
I’ve been riding bicycles fir about 60 years. When I was young it was about adventure. My parents would have to come pick my buddy and me up from little prairie towns. Later riding was all about speed, time trials, and triathlons- exciting! In my 40’s and 50’s it was a social thing, group rides and Biking Across Kansas. Many centuries were ridden and I was always uncomfortable, at odds with my bicycle, some part of me always hurt or was numb. I hated it but loved the camaraderie. About a year ago I discovered recumbent bicycles- I’m not talking about trikes! My joy and sense of adventure returned. I am completely comfortable on my recumbent and fast enough to scare myself. In the meantime, I get to enjoy the sights around me and return home without any aches and pains. May I suggest a recumbent bicycle to you?