Thanks again everybody for this really helpful discussion- much I didn't know and had not thought of. I'm starting to talk with my LBS about doing a build if I get one of the frames suggested such as the Cosmic Stallion, or maybe I'll save $1300 and just get the Kona Wheelhouse. I think the Kona Roadhouse was really the bike I should have gotten but they are discontinued and I can't even find a frame. But maybe one'll pop up.
This is not an emergency decision but I am really ready for a real road bike. Thank you all!