Originally Posted by
124Spider
Exactly!
Being stoker is, to me, an unattractive role, and I am immensely grateful that my wife is happy to perform that role. But for it to work, she has to absolutely trust me, which includes that she knows that her wishes are paramount (which includes that I don't give her "orders").
It certainly is.
I think its more about understanding each other than passing orders now and then.
I read somewhere that tandem is a best way to boost communication between two person's.