Back to the original question, I had an "issue" with my wife last year, she groused that I was spending too much time riding (which was true, I was routinely heading out the door on Saturdays for a full-day jaunt with friends.). My viewpoint was that we didn't have any competing kid activities so I was free to exercise. SHE felt like I was never around. She just wanted to spend time with me so I had to re-balance my riding. I was grumpy for about 2 months but eventually worked it out.
Btw, one of the ways I keep my fitness up so that I'm still "available" weeknights is riding on a trainer (using zwift). I get plenty of base miles in and it doesn't interfere with "us" time.
My wife is generally supportive of my riding, understands that I need to exercise and does periodically ride with me, she was just unhappy with my availability. Be present when you're there, it goes a long way. Good luck.
