This is a confusing thread. You state "no racing strictly recreational. My main goal is to find a comfortable bike as I do not like to hunch over" but you are shopping two $4500 race-oriented aero gravel bikes?
These are both awesome bikes, but neither seems like a good option if those statements are your priorities. The point of these bikes is to be light, fast and aero.
The CyclingTips review of the Cervelo Aspero states: "In fact, the stack and reach aren’t all that far off a Specialized Tarmac... In other words, if you’re specifically looking for a new gravel bike with casual upright positioning, you should probably look elsewhere; this is not the gravel bike you’re looking for."