There is the possibility that your discomfort may be related to reach and overall bike fit. That fit begins with locating the saddle for the best compromise between pedaling efficiently as well as comfort. One the saddle is located, then the distance to the handle bar is established. It may be that the reach is off due to the saddle being too far forward. Trying to navigate, often conflicting requirements, can be frustrating. Rest assured that you will eventually figure it out. My suggestion is you become more knowledgable about bike fit There are many You Tube videos about this. One I like is by Peter White in New Hampshire.
https://www.peterwhitecycles.com/fitting.php Another is Steve Hogg in Australia with articles on the subject.
https://www.stevehoggbikefitting.com...efitting.com/#
It is counter intuitive but your problem may be the result of saddle too far forward. The articles in the links will explain the consequences of this. Good luck with this and hang in there.