Ok...So your advice on taking it easy is sound. I don't plan on marrying her when I see her on Friday...I'm using the experience from many of you to try and make things happen THAT I WOULD LIKE TO HAPPEN. I'm aware that things may not go the way I hope they do but what's the harm in discussing possibilities? I'm not able to act on a lot of things I hope happen but to want them to is a strong desire at this point. Creepy as it sounds I'm willing to let things happen organically when we're together. I'm 48 and have dated before so I think I have a good head on my shoulders when it comes to them. I may not be married so I'm looking for more of an experienced opinion on how that may look? I have a long way to go in terms of things working out the way I hope they do but as Blondie say...'dreaming is free'.