nivalu

there is absolutely no easy way to ask this but:

i am around 300 and female. i have been testing road bikes and find two issues:

i am kinda 'squeezed in' between head tube and seat when straddling (geet on the ground)....not sure if thats just an inevitable thing....

and the major issue: i have a lot of fat in my upper leg area. when considering standover height, im not sure if it should be comfortable standover, or standover with the bike kinda.....up in there. it would seem like a frame that was 2-3 cm smaller than the size is take based on height wouldn't feel so......violating?

i am embarrassed to be writing this on a public forum but i hope someone here understands.