One man's "dampened" ride is another's "dead" or "wooden".
One man's "buzz" is another's "lively" or "connected".
One day, a bike feels "stiff", another day, for the same person, it "beats you up". Some love steel, some ti, some carbon, some aluminum. Some don't gaf.
IOW, 99.9% of what you're talking about is strictly personal preference. If carbon floats your boat - great, by all means get it. You're the one riding it.