Update:
I picked up a used Trek gel saddle and when installing it I noticed that when I sit in a more upright position the pressure on my perineum was much lessened. So I had a stem riser installed and raised my handlebars.
I then drove 6 hours to the OBX for vacation and the drive gave me some chaffing so the rides at the beach switching back and forth between saddles was inconclusive.
When I got home the chaffing was gone and I put 5 miles on the get saddle with the raised handlebars and had much less pain. I have the nose slightly down with the saddle well forward on the stem and I seem to be sitting firmly on my sit bones, not my perineum. I'm going to ride this saddle through July and see how it goes.