Please didcuss your dificulties/ desires with Andy Muzi at
http://www.yellowjersy.org or 608 257-4737. They will let you try/exchange saddles until you are satisfied. My wife and I ended up with a book box of saddles until we found the "right" saddles. My 56 year old wife experienced similar symptoms with about 7 diferent saddles and now has a Brooks Finesse on all 3 (2 road & 1 Hybrid) bicycles. Brooks Saddles are a bit expensive, but less expensive than a new bicycle not ridden/enjoyed due to severe discomfort.