Missinglink, there's always hope to find the holy grail of bike position. I stopped for about a year due to groin numbness so I can feel your dilemma. Suggest googling crank forward bikes, feet forward design, comfort bikes, & cruiser bikes. Basically bikes where the crank is forward of the seat tube. It's not as sporty looking as a road bike, but reduces pressure on the groin, shoulder and wrists. You ride more upright so you won't be aero. Maybe rent the most common of this bike design like the Electra Townie to give it a try. Other designs that comes to mind is Day6 bicycles, KHS Manhattan etc. Hope you find the Holy Grail.