shoota 

So are you trying to do the "one bike for everything" bit? Or are you ok with a couple different bikes? In my opinion a dedicated road bike and a dedicated gravel/cx bike is the way to go. Especially since you ride a lot of road.

My buddy just built up an Exploro and it's been in the shop as much as on the road. The seatpost broke, the bb squeaked like crazy. It took several trips and warranty replacements to get both fixed. It's a fast bike to be sure, but it's extremely proprietary, so having an LBS to go through would be a great thing. I wouldn't want to deal with it by myself. (Or at all really).