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Old 01-15-19, 10:02 PM
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A common reply when I lived in Ontario was ... "no worries". Took a while to get use to.
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Old 01-15-19, 10:32 PM
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Originally Posted by ColonelSanders View Post
You have no credibility to be complaining here.
good grief! that’s both presumptuous and impertinent.
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Old 01-15-19, 10:34 PM
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Originally Posted by clemsongirl View Post
good grief! that’s both presumptuous and impertinent.
Not only did you miss the humor, you stripped it out of your quote!
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Old 01-15-19, 10:51 PM
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Originally Posted by wgscott View Post
Not only did you miss the humor, you stripped it out of your quote!
yeah i stripped out the line he labeled as sarcastic….
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Old 01-15-19, 11:18 PM
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Context is vital.

(Without that, the second sentence seems presumptuous and impertinent.)
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Old 01-15-19, 11:35 PM
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Originally Posted by wgscott View Post
Context is vital. (Without that, the second sentence seems presumptuous and impertinent.)
and it did to me even in context! btw i did a search on his posts before i responded since i don’t know his posts. It only took a quick look to find his reaction to Betsy Andreu and saying LanceDerangementSyndrome is a sad thing as a response to posts about her.....that and this one was enough for me
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Old 01-16-19, 01:30 AM
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Originally Posted by RubeRad View Post
"Sure thing"

"You betcha"

A lot of times when somebody (over)thanks me for something I don't think they should be surprised that I would do, I say "glad to do it", or "happy to help", or "hey, it's my job"

A similar thing, how do you respond to "Sorry" -- It bugs me (only a tiny bit) the response "it's ok". If it was truly OK, then "sorry" shouldn't have been necessary. "apology accepted" or "I forgive you" is usually over the top -- what's the right middle ground to acknowledge the sorry was necessary and appreciated?

No worries.



"You're welcome" isn't widely used here. "No worries" is much more common, or "no problem", or maybe even just a smile and nod.
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Old 01-16-19, 01:49 AM
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How about "what did you just say to me?!?"

Followed by "oh, you said thank you!"
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Old 01-16-19, 07:03 AM
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Originally Posted by indyfabz View Post
It's you. Conventions change over time. Instead of accepting "Of course" as the new "You're welcome" you plan to offer a sarcastic response. That puts you below the sincere people you are complaining about.
Bingo.
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Old 01-16-19, 07:11 AM
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Originally Posted by eja_ bottecchia View Post
There is something about the “of course” reply that is just grating. It is as if when you thank the person and they reply “of course,” there is a notion that they are entitled to the thank you.

“Thank you for bagging my groceries.”

”Of course...you had better thank me.”
First, the response is simply rote and you're reading in to it too much.

Second, you're reading in to it like a grumpy old man looking for the impertinence of whippersnappers - it's not "of course *I* deserve the thanks," it's more along the lines of "of course - why wouldn't I do that for you?" IOW, the service is expected, not the thanks in response to the service.
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Old 01-16-19, 07:46 AM
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Originally Posted by clemsongirl View Post
and it did to me even in context! btw i did a search on his posts before i responded since i don’t know his posts. It only took a quick look to find his reaction to Betsy Andreu and saying LanceDerangementSyndrome is a sad thing as a response to posts about her.....that and this one was enough for me
You didn't grasp the context of that post either.
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Old 01-16-19, 08:09 AM
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Okay Colonel Sanders and clemsongirl will you please continue in PM? Thank you.
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Please dont outsmart the censor. That is a very expensive censor and every time one of you guys outsmart it it makes someone at the home office feel bad. We dont wanna do that. So dont cleverly disguise bad words.
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Old 01-16-19, 05:30 PM
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"Of course" just sounds to me like a proper response from a proper servant in a fine dining establishment.
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Old 01-17-19, 12:35 PM
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What does "you're welcome" even mean? It means "your presence in this place is acknowledged and appreciated and you may feel at ease".
Somehow it got to be the acceptable polite response to "thank you", despite the fact that it doesn't mean anything like that.

Spanish "bienvenido" = you're welcome <in this place> (literally "well came".)
Spanish response to "gracias" = "de nada" (literally "it is nothing") or "no hay de que" (literally "no reason <to thank me.>"

So "of course", "no problem", "sure" these are all even BETTER responses to a thank you than "you're welcome"

Vamos adelante muchachos.
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Old 01-17-19, 02:31 PM
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It's been decades since my few semesters of German, but I seem to recall that the customary response to "Danke" is "Bitte", a.k.a. "Please"
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Old 01-17-19, 02:50 PM
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Originally Posted by RubeRad View Post
It's been decades since my few semesters of German, but I seem to recall that the customary response to "Danke" is "Bitte", a.k.a. "Please"
Yes and no. Context changes the meaning of 'bitte'
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Old 01-18-19, 03:39 AM
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Originally Posted by DiabloScott View Post
What does "you're welcome" even mean? It means "your presence in this place is acknowledged and appreciated and you may feel at ease".
Somehow it got to be the acceptable polite response to "thank you", despite the fact that it doesn't mean anything like that.

Spanish "bienvenido" = you're welcome <in this place> (literally "well came".)
Spanish response to "gracias" = "de nada" (literally "it is nothing") or "no hay de que" (literally "no reason <to thank me.>"

So "of course", "no problem", "sure" these are all even BETTER responses to a thank you than "you're welcome"

Vamos adelante muchachos.
+1

I've always thought "you're welcome" is an odd response to "thank you".
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Old 01-18-19, 10:07 PM
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"You're welcome" is very unwelcome if it comes before a "thank you." What? You didn't know that? Well, now you do. You're welcome.

See? That's pretty condescending.

I don't say "you're welcome" very often. I usually say one of ten other things, like ...
- no prob
- anytime
- sure
- you got it, bro
- back at ya
- s'alright!
- [point, wink, and make a mouth click.]

I also never respond, "for your pleasure" and stare into their eyes with a sly, greasy smile for way too long. I never do that. Ok, once...
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Old 01-21-19, 10:51 AM
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I thanked my 17 year old about something and he corrected himself to add 'you're welcome', he said he was trying to break the habit of saying 'no problem' or 'sure'
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Old 01-21-19, 11:08 AM
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Interesting that he (apparently) decided himself to do that, rather than just being told to do that. I like that. Self-awareness and desire for self-improvement are good things
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Old 01-23-19, 10:54 AM
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Originally Posted by wgscott View Post
No problem.
Sorry, that's what I say most of the time although I do say thank you and some times you're welcome but No Problem is my normal reply. Or nada problem, no worries and then the You're Quite Welcome is what I might say. I think as long as you reply something like this it isn't bad, I've never had the Of Course reply in this area but it is better then no reply at all which bugs me worse.

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Old 01-23-19, 11:47 AM
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Once in a while, when I intentionally want to NOT just toss off a 'no problem' or 'sure', I'll say 'you're welcome', or maybe even stretch it out to a full 'you are welcome', with eye contact and a smile.
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