Hiding the stuff that happens
12-07-19, 03:14 PM
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If I pull a really bonehead move and am ashamed to admit how stupid I was, I probably won't mention it to anyone, either my wife or you guys. But of course that has never happened. Never, as in not ever. Don't look at me like that.
Other than that, I don't really have a policy about what I tell and what I don't. It's mostly a matter of what comes up in conversation, and what I remember.
Other than that, I don't really have a policy about what I tell and what I don't. It's mostly a matter of what comes up in conversation, and what I remember.
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My wife has bailed me out of the hospital after a couple of roadside engagements. I've pointed out miscues when I'm driving. From her reaction, it's just easier not to make a big deal about it.
12-08-19, 01:00 AM
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I’ve had a lot of incidents just in the last two weeks. Feels like one per ride. Considering I go through only five intersections it’s a lot, out of the ordinary. I wouldn’t call them close calls, more like failed communications. One of them had me yelling pay attention... another, we both committed equal sins and just kind of shared a sheepish look. I haven’t told my wife about any of them. I feel like she already imagines worse than I really get.
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12-08-19, 07:36 AM
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"Hiding the stuff that happens"
....One time recently, I did bring up my accident, with regrets. My wife and I were meeting with our lawyer (not unpleasantly) and at the end of the meeting we got talking about bicycling.
When I mentioned I cycle-commute, it turned out the lawyer's husband does too and she expressed her concerns. When I somehow mentioned the accident, I realized that was the wrong thing to do. There was no reason to bring it up in this social context, and it was not as an admonition to be careful out there.
....One time recently, I did bring up my accident, with regrets. My wife and I were meeting with our lawyer (not unpleasantly) and at the end of the meeting we got talking about bicycling.
When I mentioned I cycle-commute, it turned out the lawyer's husband does too and she expressed her concerns. When I somehow mentioned the accident, I realized that was the wrong thing to do. There was no reason to bring it up in this social context, and it was not as an admonition to be careful out there.
That sounds worth hearing more about. What did the lawyer say? How did the conversation go from there?
Also, I agree with what you said above, that we all learn from each other talking about our near-misses and close calls, and unfortunately the actual hits.
I get a lot out of it, anyway. Maybe it's just morbid fascination.
Also, I agree with what you said above, that we all learn from each other talking about our near-misses and close calls, and unfortunately the actual hits.
I get a lot out of it, anyway. Maybe it's just morbid fascination.
At that time of that conversation I did think of an alternate comment I should have made, namely that he cycle commutes through the towns of Arlington and Cambridge which are remarkably bike-friendly, and even adjoining Boston has some nice bikepaths and bikelanes (link). My accident happened on the road in an outer suburb.
Although I’m a cycle-commuting enthusiast on Bike Forums, in general I’m circumspect about bike commuting in casual conversation, other than about the weather and the neighborhoods I traverse.
...always a source of amusement and conversation with my friends and acquaintances; e.g. in bad weather, “You didn’t ride your bike today, did you?,” or at fancy social events, “Did you ride your bike here?.” Always asked with amusement and respect.
I in turn often ask people where they live, because invariably I have ridden in their neighborhood, and that question usually sparks an engaging converstion.
I in turn often ask people where they live, because invariably I have ridden in their neighborhood, and that question usually sparks an engaging converstion.
Frankly, I have posted that I would not be inclined to encourage, unless by example (nor discourage) someone to cycle-commute, but if they so chose, I would freely and gladly give any advice...
Public exhortations to cycle-commute, or utility cycle are well and good with no individual responsibility for bad outcomes, but I would not want the recriminations of a personal endorsement if something bad happened...
FWW, I’m not advocatin’ against, just sayin’
Public exhortations to cycle-commute, or utility cycle are well and good with no individual responsibility for bad outcomes, but I would not want the recriminations of a personal endorsement if something bad happened...
FWW, I’m not advocatin’ against, just sayin’
On Bike Forums, we frequently and candidly post about our close calls and actual mishaps, not just to “one-up” each other but most considerately to advise.
I have previously posted about discussing the dangers of cycling with non-cyclists or casual cyclists concerned with my or their own safety...:
I have previously posted about discussing the dangers of cycling with non-cyclists or casual cyclists concerned with my or their own safety...:
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