Attitudes towards older folks - rant
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Coupla' observations:
1. Concern over other's opinions places other people in control of ones emotional state. Forget it. "Wrinkles" just happen to be our particular burden; there are many burdens that are much worse.
2. Cultural change only happens when we become the change we desire (as the skinny chap in a loincloth said). Our example is the only coin of exchange in this process. A fit, clear-eyed 60-something purposefully engaged in living is a powerful image.
Get on the bike, get hooked up with good people, focus on the beauty, and allow others their views.
1. Concern over other's opinions places other people in control of ones emotional state. Forget it. "Wrinkles" just happen to be our particular burden; there are many burdens that are much worse.
2. Cultural change only happens when we become the change we desire (as the skinny chap in a loincloth said). Our example is the only coin of exchange in this process. A fit, clear-eyed 60-something purposefully engaged in living is a powerful image.
Get on the bike, get hooked up with good people, focus on the beauty, and allow others their views.
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Coupla' observations:
1. Concern over other's opinions places other people in control of ones emotional state. Forget it. "Wrinkles" just happen to be our particular burden; there are many burdens that are much worse.
2. Cultural change only happens when we become the change we desire (as the skinny chap in a loincloth said). Our example is the only coin of exchange in this process. A fit, clear-eyed 60-something purposefully engaged in living is a powerful image.
Get on the bike, get hooked up with good people, focus on the beauty, and allow others their views.
1. Concern over other's opinions places other people in control of ones emotional state. Forget it. "Wrinkles" just happen to be our particular burden; there are many burdens that are much worse.
2. Cultural change only happens when we become the change we desire (as the skinny chap in a loincloth said). Our example is the only coin of exchange in this process. A fit, clear-eyed 60-something purposefully engaged in living is a powerful image.
Get on the bike, get hooked up with good people, focus on the beauty, and allow others their views.
Yes. Never better said.
I've long since given up listening to, let alone believing, what others have to say to or about me. i simply don't care. When I run into someone who regards age as victimization (by what, nature?), or as a disability to heroically tolerate, I turn off my ears, smile, and get back on my bike.
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And of course none of us were condensending toward our elders in any way shape or form when we were young right? It's the natural order as the young lion looks to take over for the old lion. In all honesty the young lion has nothing to gain by respecting the old lion. His destiny is to replace us. Ours to to hold him off as long as we can.
Actually, in the OP it seemed to me that the young woman was paying a compliment. 'Excercise is important. Good for you." The proper response would be "You are right it is. What are you doing for dinner tonight...?"
Actually, in the OP it seemed to me that the young woman was paying a compliment. 'Excercise is important. Good for you." The proper response would be "You are right it is. What are you doing for dinner tonight...?"
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And of course none of us were condensending toward our elders in any way shape or form when we were young right? It's the natural order as the young lion looks to take over for the old lion. In all honesty the young lion has nothing to gain by respecting the old lion. His destiny is to replace us. Ours to to hold him off as long as we can.
Actually, in the OP it seemed to me that the young woman was paying a compliment. 'Excercise is important. Good for you." The proper response would be "You are right it is. What are you doing for dinner tonight...?"
Actually, in the OP it seemed to me that the young woman was paying a compliment. 'Excercise is important. Good for you." The proper response would be "You are right it is. What are you doing for dinner tonight...?"
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Hey, I am unsubscribing from this thread I started with what I thought was a pretty harmless question:
"My problem is, I can't think of a good response. I'd like to say, "I've got another 30 miles to go, would you like to join me?" or something like that, but by the time I think of it, it is too late.
OTOH, I could just pass and say "Thank you!" and be on my way, or just say nothing, what is what I did today.
Any bright ideas?"
Would someone let me know when they stop beating me up?
Sheesh!
For those of you who read the thread, way back I resolved this in my mind:
"I've been thinking about this a bit, and now, almost 24 hours later, I've decided I will say something like:
"Oh yes, exercise is so important. I particularly enjoy our 40 mile rides. Do you bicycle? I lead group rides. Please join us sometime."
In an absolutely non-condescending and friendly, open, sincere manner."
"My problem is, I can't think of a good response. I'd like to say, "I've got another 30 miles to go, would you like to join me?" or something like that, but by the time I think of it, it is too late.
OTOH, I could just pass and say "Thank you!" and be on my way, or just say nothing, what is what I did today.
Any bright ideas?"
Would someone let me know when they stop beating me up?
Sheesh!
For those of you who read the thread, way back I resolved this in my mind:
"I've been thinking about this a bit, and now, almost 24 hours later, I've decided I will say something like:
"Oh yes, exercise is so important. I particularly enjoy our 40 mile rides. Do you bicycle? I lead group rides. Please join us sometime."
In an absolutely non-condescending and friendly, open, sincere manner."
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In pleasant conversatiom, my neighbor asked what I was doing, and I said I was riding a few miles. Immediately, the younger lady piped in, with a voice like she was talking to a child, saying something like, "Oh, exercise is so good for you. It's important to keep it up!" - directly implying that I was old and it was nice that I was getting a little bit of exercise.