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06-21-19, 10:39 AM
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A Very Off-Topic thread
I tried my best to find an OT thread-general, but it seems there isn't one. Anyways, my grandfather is 95, and my family is trying to figure out elder care. I thought with the somewhat older community here, someone might know of a forum where elder caregiving/healthcare topics are discussed.
I found this site: https://www.agingcare.com/caregiver-forum which looks promising, and this site: Health & Wellness | SENIORSonly CLUB which looks less active.
Anyone know of any others? Thanks, I appreciate it!
I found this site: https://www.agingcare.com/caregiver-forum which looks promising, and this site: Health & Wellness | SENIORSonly CLUB which looks less active.
Anyone know of any others? Thanks, I appreciate it!
06-21-19, 05:17 PM
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whether or not your grandfather has any alzheimers issues, there is a lot of good info in general at https://www.alz.org/ especially at local levels. it can be pretty complex depending on medical condition, levlel of care needed finances, etc. If there are any substantial assets talking to an elder law attorney/estate planning may be helpful, at a minimum you need things like powers of attorney, medical directives, etc
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06-21-19, 05:57 PM
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Check out the AARP website and search on 'caregiving'. AARP gets some flack but there is good information to be found.
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Add your location to your profile. Such things are very localized.
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See if there is an Area Agency on Aging or an Adult Disabilities Resource Center in your area. They can help guide you to resources. Good Luck.
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Find an elder care advocate. There are professionals that deal with this every day. "National Academy of Certified Care Managers".
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06-21-19, 08:07 PM
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+1 on AARP site.
had a similar situation with my 95 yo dad over the last 2 years.
Initally, we had caregivers come in a few times a week, but that turned into 24 hr care.
There was some trial and error to match caregivers to his needs.
had a similar situation with my 95 yo dad over the last 2 years.
Initally, we had caregivers come in a few times a week, but that turned into 24 hr care.
There was some trial and error to match caregivers to his needs.
06-21-19, 10:20 PM
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I was caregiver for three family members -- both grandparents on my dad's side, then my mom for 11 years -- until they died. My mom had dementia and died last November from pneumonia after she'd lost her mobility.
My background was in nursing and health care, including chronically ill patients facing imminent death, and some folks with Parkinson's and other issues. So to some extent I was prepared long before I had to face these issues with family. But it's still never easy.
I read a lot and talked with other folks whom I knew personally about caring for family, but never participated in online groups. As a moderator for niche hobbyist forums I learned that, unfortunately, all online groups tend to evolve/devolve the same way. They can be useful for amusement or discussing non-essential things. but I would have found them depressing and antagonistic for discussing caregiver issues. In person, and with real world friends and acquaintances, people are more likely to be civil, considerate and to avoid allowing differences in politics, religion, etc., to interfere with maintaining a cordial relationship.
If possible try to find a local support group, mentor or other resource. I'm betting you'll find it more helpful.
My background was in nursing and health care, including chronically ill patients facing imminent death, and some folks with Parkinson's and other issues. So to some extent I was prepared long before I had to face these issues with family. But it's still never easy.
I read a lot and talked with other folks whom I knew personally about caring for family, but never participated in online groups. As a moderator for niche hobbyist forums I learned that, unfortunately, all online groups tend to evolve/devolve the same way. They can be useful for amusement or discussing non-essential things. but I would have found them depressing and antagonistic for discussing caregiver issues. In person, and with real world friends and acquaintances, people are more likely to be civil, considerate and to avoid allowing differences in politics, religion, etc., to interfere with maintaining a cordial relationship.
If possible try to find a local support group, mentor or other resource. I'm betting you'll find it more helpful.
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06-21-19, 10:21 PM
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Post in the BikeForums 50+ forum. Many of us are dealing with aging parents. (My wife's 94-year-old mother does not have Alzheimer's, but she has been facing some new health challenges that may impact her lifestyle and independence.)
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Bless you for dealing with this as best you can, it is difficult and poor choices can haunt you, I know. We all want to pass in our own beds but in so many cases that is not possible and the family carries the burden.
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I say bless everyone who replied without a single "what does that have to do with....." Most forums if you post anything the least bit off topic you get flamed. This is a good bunch of folks even if they are a little strange riding & fixing ancient bikes and such. BTW strange is often good 
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I worked in the Senior Housing industry, in CA, MO, and WA for my 2nd career. Certified to be a director for assisted living facilities. Needs are very individual for each person and family. Does your state allow family care homes?
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