Originally Posted by
Litespud
It sounds like you're really looking for "a bike that won't fall over" - and such a bike doesn't exist. Outside of bikes so poorly designed or set up that they're impossible to keep upright, all bikes exists within a spectrum of somewhat more or less stable than others - but it really comes down to the rider to keep it upright - even the twitchiest bike is rideable, and even the stablest bike is crashable. Yes, you can make life easier for yourself with a nice stable machine with a long wheelbase, a slightly more upright position etc, without sacrificing weight and performance (eg gravel or endurance geometry), but you really have to figure out how to get out of your own head - that's where the problem is, and no bike is going to solve it.
Definitely agree with most of what you've posted except the upright position comment. The more upright you sit the less weight on the front end, the less 'stable' the bike will be. I agree 100% w/ the problem not necessarily being physical but much more mental. No bike will help that much.