A couple things to add here.
1) Most alloy rims that don't have Mavic written on them should be able to handle 130kgF. With a tire mounted and inflated, this number will drop.
2) As
mrrabbit said, differences between inside and outside spoke tensions will be negligible. This is a big nothingburger.
3) We know that equalizing spoke tensions is important - more important than getting the wheel absolutely true. I would assume this applies to the NDS as well as the drive side. Considering that under tensioning on the NDS could conceivably cause NDS spokes to go slack, I would think equalizing NDS spokes would be even more important than equalizing DS spokes. On a Shimano rear hub and 11-speed freehub, 130kgF on the DS will give you around 55kgF on the NDS. This number will drop into the 40-50kgF range with a tire mounted which is still plenty of tension. Below that and it could become problematic which is why equalizing NDS spokes is critical.