What’s changed is my view on what I want out of a gravel bike. I used to watch cycling videos in areas no where near where I live, including event documentaries, and I said that looks fun I want a gravel bike so I can do that too.
So after owning a few gravel bikes over the years I’ve learned that I don’t need a gravel bike on steroids - and these now exist! - I just need a gravel bike tuned to where I ride. And these have existed for 10+ years.