Children are barnacles until age 5/6 when they start separating from you. imo, age 8-10 is the sweet spot, they aren't barnacles, but they come, hug you and say I love you. But they keep separating and by their teen years, they want nothing from you other than money and a ride somewhere. The early years are physically taxing, the later years are mentally taxing. It never "gets better" until the mid-20s when they start coming back saying "you were right".
Do what's best for you and the family. Being C&V-relevant it irrelevant.