My wrists are the same - flat bars kill me. Currently my two favorite bars are the Surly Molokko (as pictured by Kapusta, but without the extras) and the 23* Salsa Bend. I also run the bars with some rollback to fit how my body naturally aligns better. The Molokko is especially nice with the forward section that can be used on dirt roads to stretch out a bit, nice for a bike that sees more than just trails. The Bend bar has a noticeable forward sweep before the backsweep that keeps the controls at the same distance.