Do people not talk? Like just say, "let's do 2 mile pulls"? When I lead a group ride, the first thing I say is that people need to communicate with each other. If people don't, it puts everyone in danger.
And I have to ask, you get board riding your bike when you are behind someone? Do you ever ride alone?
Also, and this will come off as *****y, but your post does not make you sound like someone I would want to do a group ride with. Just saying.