I do better with regular padded shorts versus bibs. I’ve experienced similar issues as you have with bibs. The key to bibs is getting the correct size and model for the tension on the straps which can be trial and error.
I’ve had a lot of luck with Pearl Izumi, Giordana and Hincapie shorts. You might try the cheaper Pearl Izumi shorts (non bib)???
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