Fizik makes a gel pad kit that installs under the existing tape. I put a set n Patti's bike today. It was 18 dollars on line. I have been using the pads on my bike and have had much less grief than Patti...
You can adjust the ratio of butt load to palm load by playing with seat aft and forward position, or changing stem length and height.
You can live with a numb butt, but Numb and tingly hands can be a precursor to more serious injuries. Favor your hands.