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People not saying hi

Old 07-04-21, 10:39 AM
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People not saying hi

Why do so many people not greet riders they pass? It seems like 4/5 of the time when someone passes me they do it without even acknowledging my presence, and when they do acknowledge me its usually with something like "on your left" which takes longer than just saying hi. I salute to riders coming towards me 9 out of 10 times, and verbally greet every rider I pass even if I'm redlined sprinting. It triggers me when this happens, I wonder if its because I look like a commuter not a roadie, I always chase them down and see how their day is going when people do this to me.

Yesterday I was riding with my dad and asked him why he doesn't say hi, he was like "I didn't think they would appreciate it, when I get passed im upset at the situation and the other rider" ???? hes so weird LOL

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Old 07-04-21, 10:51 AM
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Very interesting post. We've never discussed this around here before. Can't wait for the discussion.
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Old 07-04-21, 11:00 AM
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Originally Posted by LarrySellerz View Post
Why do so many people not greet riders they pass? It seems like 4/5 of the time when someone passes me they do it without even acknowledging my presence, ...
If four out of five people behave that way, have you considered how your behavior is causing it?
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Old 07-04-21, 11:13 AM
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Maybe it's you?
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People here don't get it.
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Old 07-04-21, 11:34 AM
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Maybe it's you?
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I agree with the OP. Back in the day most club cyclists would wave to each other when passing and also wave to solitary riders not attached to a club but just out enjoying riding their bike. Hell, we'd even wave to middle-aged ladies cycling along on their hybrid with a wicker basket on the front - I guess as a mixture of encouragement and that we were kind of all doing the same activity. Two wheels good! Our club picked up a few new members doing this but things slowly started to change about 15 years ago and are getting progressively worse so that now most cyclists do not wave when passing. On my daily commute it's slightly better - perhaps 50/50. It gets right up my nose when you call out a cheery "Good Morning" and get nothing back except the thousand yard stare.
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Do riders wave on the Silver Comet?
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Old 07-04-21, 12:31 PM
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I agree with the OP. Back in the day most club cyclists would wave to each other when passing and also wave to solitary riders not attached to a club but just out enjoying riding their bike.
Back in the day automobile drivers would wave to each other when passing*. Do you?

*There are large parts of my state where drivers still do.
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Back in the day automobile drivers would wave to each other when passing*. Do you?

*There are large parts of my state where drivers still do.
You're on the verge of answering your own question there!
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Old 07-04-21, 12:38 PM
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You're on the verge of answering your own question there!
Really? Because I have no idea whether you wave to other drivers.
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Originally Posted by asgelle View Post
If four out of five people behave that way, have you considered how your behavior is causing it?
my "behavior" is cruising at a decent clip, the people who pass me are serious roadies who for the most part don't greet strangers they pass. In the peloton I ride with as far as I know im the only guy saying hi and encouraging the people we blow by (often way too close.) I just think we should be better ambassadors of the sport, some people deem road cyclists as stuck up and not saying hi to slower riders contributes to this.
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Old 07-04-21, 12:43 PM
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Originally Posted by LarrySellerz View Post
my "behavior" is cruising at a decent clip, the people who pass me are serious roadies who for the most part don't greet strangers they pass. In the peloton I ride with as far as I know im the only guy saying hi and encouraging the people we blow by (often way too close.) I just think we should be better ambassadors of the sport, some people deem road cyclists as stuck up and not saying hi to slower riders contributes to this.
Wait. Are you saying there are people in the world who, without harming anyone else, aren't behaving the way you think they should behave? By all means we should make it our mission to change that.
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Old 07-04-21, 12:54 PM
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You must be in New York.

Oh... wait... i'm in New York and people wave to me. And sometimes they are telling me I'm #1.
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Where I live most cyclists will wave or say hi when you pass. You only get the odd one who doesn't acknowledge fellow cyclists on the road. I think it's just a personality thing.
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Old 07-04-21, 01:18 PM
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When you get on an elevator, do you stand facing the doors, or the back of the elevator so you can see who you're with?
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Originally Posted by Koyote View Post
Very interesting post. We've never discussed this around here before. Can't wait for the discussion.
I can't decide whether it's better to say hello or to wave. Which one better conveys "I still respect you as a person, even though I just dropped your ass?"
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Old 07-04-21, 01:33 PM
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Good grief, a waving thread. Do a search, Larry. This has been beaten to death around here for years.
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I feel sorry for the people who are so serious they canít reply to a friendly hello. I love riding and barring a complete bonk it puts me in a good mood. What I feel sorry for are the riders who donít seem to be deriving the joy from their riding.
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It's not important unless you make it important.
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I don't have expectations of people. If people are friendly, they are friendly. If they are not, they are not. They don't upset me.
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I don't have expectations of people. If people are friendly, they are friendly. If they are not, they are not. They don't upset me.
I'm glad that works for you. As for me, I need external validation. My self-worth is determined by others acknowledging me. If I wave and someone doesn't wave back, it makes me feel invisible; as if I'm not worthy of being seen as an equal.
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I find it depends on where you live. Everyone waves at each other where I live. Even driving out of my neighbor hood people wave at each other. Just like on this forum you see a lot of negative responses. Even in this thread.
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Originally Posted by asgelle View Post
Back in the day automobile drivers would wave to each other when passing*. Do you?

*There are large parts of my state where drivers still do.
Proper Jeep and proper VW drivers wave to each other all the time.
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Originally Posted by tomato coupe View Post
I can't decide whether it's better to say hello or to wave. Which one better conveys "I still respect you as a person, even though I just dropped your ass?"
Saying hello forsure if passing or getting passed
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