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Supposedly there's a spray you can apply that helps with the bedding in proccess. I've never used it but it supposed to work pretty well. I just clean the disk with alcohol, clean the pads with alcohol if they're just dirty. I'll sand them if they are glazed. Then find a long hill and rebed them.
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Supposedly there's a spray you can apply that helps with the bedding in proccess. I've never used it but it supposed to work pretty well. I just clean the disk with alcohol, clean the pads with alcohol if they're just dirty. I'll sand them if they are glazed. Then find a long hill and rebed them.
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I steel wool my 2032 battery surfaces just in case. Don't know if it helps but I feel like it should.
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This is going to be a completely ****-ed up post, but whatever.
I’m dealing with a lot of conflict. I have this friend, who I have known since I was 15, lived with for a couple of years, but haven’t talked to much on the past 15 years or so.
He’s gay. Nothing wrong with that, and he always had an eye for younger-ish looking dudes. Think- 20 year olds that look 15 (15 years ago when I lived with him anyway). Anyway- in 2010 a couple of 15ish year old boys came forward about some bad **** he did. He lost his job as a sheriff’s deputy, lost his house, and spent 2 years in jail.
He gets out in 2013 and moves back home to attempt to pull his life out of the mess he made. I never thought he was a predator, just that he made some really bad decisions.
I last saw him 5 years ago for one of our friend’s 40th. He seemed fine, had a partner his age, we had a good time hanging out but didn’t really keep in touch.
On Monday- he got arrested and charged for a criminal sexual act with a 13 year old. This occurred 10 years ago almost immediately after he was released from prison. He was arraigned, released on bail and went home.
on Thursday, our friend (who’s 40th party it was where I last saw him) texted me that he’d committed suicide. That friend (who’s a cop) had stopped hanging out with him because of his behavior toward young men in the past year, and was really concerned for our mutual friend.
anyway- I feel guilty for being sad about him passing. I feel like I’m not supposed to be. It’s ****ed up.
I’m dealing with a lot of conflict. I have this friend, who I have known since I was 15, lived with for a couple of years, but haven’t talked to much on the past 15 years or so.
He’s gay. Nothing wrong with that, and he always had an eye for younger-ish looking dudes. Think- 20 year olds that look 15 (15 years ago when I lived with him anyway). Anyway- in 2010 a couple of 15ish year old boys came forward about some bad **** he did. He lost his job as a sheriff’s deputy, lost his house, and spent 2 years in jail.
He gets out in 2013 and moves back home to attempt to pull his life out of the mess he made. I never thought he was a predator, just that he made some really bad decisions.
I last saw him 5 years ago for one of our friend’s 40th. He seemed fine, had a partner his age, we had a good time hanging out but didn’t really keep in touch.
On Monday- he got arrested and charged for a criminal sexual act with a 13 year old. This occurred 10 years ago almost immediately after he was released from prison. He was arraigned, released on bail and went home.
on Thursday, our friend (who’s 40th party it was where I last saw him) texted me that he’d committed suicide. That friend (who’s a cop) had stopped hanging out with him because of his behavior toward young men in the past year, and was really concerned for our mutual friend.
anyway- I feel guilty for being sad about him passing. I feel like I’m not supposed to be. It’s ****ed up.
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This is going to be a completely ****-ed up post, but whatever.
I’m dealing with a lot of conflict. I have this friend, who I have known since I was 15, lived with for a couple of years, but haven’t talked to much on the past 15 years or so.
He’s gay. Nothing wrong with that, and he always had an eye for younger-ish looking dudes. Think- 20 year olds that look 15 (15 years ago when I lived with him anyway). Anyway- in 2010 a couple of 15ish year old boys came forward about some bad **** he did. He lost his job as a sheriff’s deputy, lost his house, and spent 2 years in jail.
He gets out in 2013 and moves back home to attempt to pull his life out of the mess he made. I never thought he was a predator, just that he made some really bad decisions.
I last saw him 5 years ago for one of our friend’s 40th. He seemed fine, had a partner his age, we had a good time hanging out but didn’t really keep in touch.
On Monday- he got arrested and charged for a criminal sexual act with a 13 year old. This occurred 10 years ago almost immediately after he was released from prison. He was arraigned, released on bail and went home.
on Thursday, our friend (who’s 40th party it was where I last saw him) texted me that he’d committed suicide. That friend (who’s a cop) had stopped hanging out with him because of his behavior toward young men in the past year, and was really concerned for our mutual friend.
anyway- I feel guilty for being sad about him passing. I feel like I’m not supposed to be. It’s ****ed up.
I’m dealing with a lot of conflict. I have this friend, who I have known since I was 15, lived with for a couple of years, but haven’t talked to much on the past 15 years or so.
He’s gay. Nothing wrong with that, and he always had an eye for younger-ish looking dudes. Think- 20 year olds that look 15 (15 years ago when I lived with him anyway). Anyway- in 2010 a couple of 15ish year old boys came forward about some bad **** he did. He lost his job as a sheriff’s deputy, lost his house, and spent 2 years in jail.
He gets out in 2013 and moves back home to attempt to pull his life out of the mess he made. I never thought he was a predator, just that he made some really bad decisions.
I last saw him 5 years ago for one of our friend’s 40th. He seemed fine, had a partner his age, we had a good time hanging out but didn’t really keep in touch.
On Monday- he got arrested and charged for a criminal sexual act with a 13 year old. This occurred 10 years ago almost immediately after he was released from prison. He was arraigned, released on bail and went home.
on Thursday, our friend (who’s 40th party it was where I last saw him) texted me that he’d committed suicide. That friend (who’s a cop) had stopped hanging out with him because of his behavior toward young men in the past year, and was really concerned for our mutual friend.
anyway- I feel guilty for being sad about him passing. I feel like I’m not supposed to be. It’s ****ed up.
Mourn him and regret the suffering of those he hurt.
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This is going to be a completely ****-ed up post, but whatever.
I’m dealing with a lot of conflict. I have this friend, who I have known since I was 15, lived with for a couple of years, but haven’t talked to much on the past 15 years or so.
He’s gay. Nothing wrong with that, and he always had an eye for younger-ish looking dudes. Think- 20 year olds that look 15 (15 years ago when I lived with him anyway). Anyway- in 2010 a couple of 15ish year old boys came forward about some bad **** he did. He lost his job as a sheriff’s deputy, lost his house, and spent 2 years in jail.
He gets out in 2013 and moves back home to attempt to pull his life out of the mess he made. I never thought he was a predator, just that he made some really bad decisions.
I last saw him 5 years ago for one of our friend’s 40th. He seemed fine, had a partner his age, we had a good time hanging out but didn’t really keep in touch.
On Monday- he got arrested and charged for a criminal sexual act with a 13 year old. This occurred 10 years ago almost immediately after he was released from prison. He was arraigned, released on bail and went home.
on Thursday, our friend (who’s 40th party it was where I last saw him) texted me that he’d committed suicide. That friend (who’s a cop) had stopped hanging out with him because of his behavior toward young men in the past year, and was really concerned for our mutual friend.
anyway- I feel guilty for being sad about him passing. I feel like I’m not supposed to be. It’s ****ed up.
I’m dealing with a lot of conflict. I have this friend, who I have known since I was 15, lived with for a couple of years, but haven’t talked to much on the past 15 years or so.
He’s gay. Nothing wrong with that, and he always had an eye for younger-ish looking dudes. Think- 20 year olds that look 15 (15 years ago when I lived with him anyway). Anyway- in 2010 a couple of 15ish year old boys came forward about some bad **** he did. He lost his job as a sheriff’s deputy, lost his house, and spent 2 years in jail.
He gets out in 2013 and moves back home to attempt to pull his life out of the mess he made. I never thought he was a predator, just that he made some really bad decisions.
I last saw him 5 years ago for one of our friend’s 40th. He seemed fine, had a partner his age, we had a good time hanging out but didn’t really keep in touch.
On Monday- he got arrested and charged for a criminal sexual act with a 13 year old. This occurred 10 years ago almost immediately after he was released from prison. He was arraigned, released on bail and went home.
on Thursday, our friend (who’s 40th party it was where I last saw him) texted me that he’d committed suicide. That friend (who’s a cop) had stopped hanging out with him because of his behavior toward young men in the past year, and was really concerned for our mutual friend.
anyway- I feel guilty for being sad about him passing. I feel like I’m not supposed to be. It’s ****ed up.
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Your relationship, and now loss, don't have anything to do with his sexual issues. That's not the part of him that you related to.
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Longer club ride was over 80 miles with a bunch of climbs. I didn't want to do the whole thing so I drove part way into the route to meet a like-minded friend. Another friend would be waiting further up the road. First friend came late and went with a different ride and second friend decided it was too cold so when the 5 fast riders caught up to me I knew I was on the wrong ride.
They dropped me on the first climb but waited at the bottom of the following descent. One of them called the guy who said it was too cold to give him a hard time so I took off alone and managed to stay ahead of them for the next 2 climbs. We stayed together on some rollers until their break at Chronic Tacos. I had a taco and one of the guys came out with "churro bites" and passed them around. They were churros about the size of a tater tot. Tasty!
After that we did some more climb/descend until they turned off to climb a canyon and I would have slowed them too much so I went off on my own. Bumped into a friend I haven't seen in a while and had a chat then heading back to my car into a headwind I picked up a wheelsucker. He hung on for a few miles and then came up alongside me to let me know he would be pulling off to go home and he thanked me for the pull. Ok.
They dropped me on the first climb but waited at the bottom of the following descent. One of them called the guy who said it was too cold to give him a hard time so I took off alone and managed to stay ahead of them for the next 2 climbs. We stayed together on some rollers until their break at Chronic Tacos. I had a taco and one of the guys came out with "churro bites" and passed them around. They were churros about the size of a tater tot. Tasty!
After that we did some more climb/descend until they turned off to climb a canyon and I would have slowed them too much so I went off on my own. Bumped into a friend I haven't seen in a while and had a chat then heading back to my car into a headwind I picked up a wheelsucker. He hung on for a few miles and then came up alongside me to let me know he would be pulling off to go home and he thanked me for the pull. Ok.
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I had never noticed the 'quick reply' button, and thought it might do something special. How long has it been there?
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The fact that your friend had so little self control that he would do the same thing he was imprisoned for immediately upon his release is sad, indeed, and deserving of your sympathy, because clearly he needed professional help. Just don't blame yourself.
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This is going to be a completely ****-ed up post, but whatever.
I’m dealing with a lot of conflict. I have this friend, who I have known since I was 15, lived with for a couple of years, but haven’t talked to much on the past 15 years or so.
He’s gay. Nothing wrong with that, and he always had an eye for younger-ish looking dudes. Think- 20 year olds that look 15 (15 years ago when I lived with him anyway). Anyway- in 2010 a couple of 15ish year old boys came forward about some bad **** he did. He lost his job as a sheriff’s deputy, lost his house, and spent 2 years in jail.
He gets out in 2013 and moves back home to attempt to pull his life out of the mess he made. I never thought he was a predator, just that he made some really bad decisions.
I last saw him 5 years ago for one of our friend’s 40th. He seemed fine, had a partner his age, we had a good time hanging out but didn’t really keep in touch.
On Monday- he got arrested and charged for a criminal sexual act with a 13 year old. This occurred 10 years ago almost immediately after he was released from prison. He was arraigned, released on bail and went home.
on Thursday, our friend (who’s 40th party it was where I last saw him) texted me that he’d committed suicide. That friend (who’s a cop) had stopped hanging out with him because of his behavior toward young men in the past year, and was really concerned for our mutual friend.
anyway- I feel guilty for being sad about him passing. I feel like I’m not supposed to be. It’s ****ed up.
I’m dealing with a lot of conflict. I have this friend, who I have known since I was 15, lived with for a couple of years, but haven’t talked to much on the past 15 years or so.
He’s gay. Nothing wrong with that, and he always had an eye for younger-ish looking dudes. Think- 20 year olds that look 15 (15 years ago when I lived with him anyway). Anyway- in 2010 a couple of 15ish year old boys came forward about some bad **** he did. He lost his job as a sheriff’s deputy, lost his house, and spent 2 years in jail.
He gets out in 2013 and moves back home to attempt to pull his life out of the mess he made. I never thought he was a predator, just that he made some really bad decisions.
I last saw him 5 years ago for one of our friend’s 40th. He seemed fine, had a partner his age, we had a good time hanging out but didn’t really keep in touch.
On Monday- he got arrested and charged for a criminal sexual act with a 13 year old. This occurred 10 years ago almost immediately after he was released from prison. He was arraigned, released on bail and went home.
on Thursday, our friend (who’s 40th party it was where I last saw him) texted me that he’d committed suicide. That friend (who’s a cop) had stopped hanging out with him because of his behavior toward young men in the past year, and was really concerned for our mutual friend.
anyway- I feel guilty for being sad about him passing. I feel like I’m not supposed to be. It’s ****ed up.
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Did a little work on my green and yellow SS this evening. Put these pedals on it and moved the brake from the rear to the front. Massive weight savings from cutting out 18" of cable and housing!!!
Think I might take out the rear canti studs now for even more weight savings.
Think I might take out the rear canti studs now for even more weight savings.
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