Riding with women
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I thought of this thread today. I did my loop through New Orleans. When I ride, I often ride with a little blue tooth speaker playing motivational/upbeat music. It was a nice day for a ride. Sunny, cool and breezy. I did pick up a shard of glass and have to replace a tube. Part of the ride runs along the NOLA lakefront where there are quite a few cyclists. I was starting to close the gap on a female rider ahead of me. She was making good speed, so it was a slow process. As I got close enough that she could likely hear my music, I processed what was playing. "Don't You Want Me." Younger members may have to look that one up. That's when I thought of this thread. Since my turn was coming pretty soon, I went ahead and dropped a piece back.
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I love riding with women and what heterosexuals' male wouldn't since a women in a spandex kit is always a sight. Jokes aside, honestly a lot of women put out more watts then I do so for group rides I just blend right in. I sometimes don't even like cycling with guys since it can just be a big testosterone circle jerk of people trying to out do each other on and off the bike.
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When out riding by myself, if I'm unable to pass someone (and stay in front of them) then I let them drop me. I don't try to sit on their arse, nor do I try to talk to them. And I guess that's what I'd like from other cyclists.
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As a woman who also rides a bike, I can say that hate creepy men who want to communicate if I really didn't show that I want to communicate
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Checking out - yes, hard to avoid, but I get just as excited by a smooth pedal stroke and the ability to hold the correct pace at the front of a paceline.
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I generally say something polite (of the "good evening" or "thank you" ilk) to almost everybody I pass (and I announce my passes before I get there for safety reasons), but I figure that crosses the line from polite to creepy if I then try to match their speed. Does that seem about right?
I started doing this because so many people seem to apologize when they get passed, like they're worried that I'm annoyed they're in my way--I really don't want them to feel that way, and I've never had anything worse than being ignored happen when I say "hi" or whatever. I don't mind being ignored, but getting an undeserved apology makes me feel guilty. It's their path/road, too.
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Join a riding group or start one if you want to chat on rides. Period!
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Don't talk to women cyclists you don't know and haven't been formally introduced to socially, also don't randomly wave at female cyclists you don't know. Both of these are creepy according to my wife. I think the exception is if you see her on the side of the road changing a tire or trying to get her tubular off the rim, you can slow down and inquire if they have all the tools they need, but I do that for men too.
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I've got this real creeper of a woman who lives in my neighborhood. Not so much when it's cold, and never when I ride the trails, but it seems almost half the time I ride the road, she latches on and drafts me unbelievably closely. Sometimes, I think can feel her breathing on my neck. She's pleasant enough and likes to chat, is several years younger and quite pretty, so I've been letting it happen. A few times she has crossed the line and pinched my bottom, and I'm torn as to whether I should consider myself harassed. She pulled this crap for 40 miles the other day. I was riding my red bike.
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I generally say something polite (of the "good evening" or "thank you" ilk) to almost everybody I pass (and I announce my passes before I get there for safety reasons), but I figure that crosses the line from polite to creepy if I then try to match their speed. Does that seem about right?
I started doing this because so many people seem to apologize when they get passed, like they're worried that I'm annoyed they're in my way--I really don't want them to feel that way, and I've never had anything worse than being ignored happen when I say "hi" or whatever. I don't mind being ignored, but getting an undeserved apology makes me feel guilty. It's their path/road, too.
I started doing this because so many people seem to apologize when they get passed, like they're worried that I'm annoyed they're in my way--I really don't want them to feel that way, and I've never had anything worse than being ignored happen when I say "hi" or whatever. I don't mind being ignored, but getting an undeserved apology makes me feel guilty. It's their path/road, too.
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I'm talking not only about usual and friendly "hi" , talking about men who keep your speed (even when you almost stop to let him go away), and try to talk with you (where do you live? let's ride a bike together) and so on. And even when you say NO , he doesn't understand and still keep going
Not taking no for an answer sounds even worse than creepy, crossing over to threatening. Does that happen a lot?
Hope you don't mind my asking you about this, but this thread has 99% been men talking to each other, and I think myself and my fellow males are pretty blind to the day-to-day of this.
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