SGcyclist

Thought it would be quite funny to write about this today on my blog - after all I struggle sometimes to think of an excuse to go out for yet another ride when my gf hasn't seen me all week. Of course all of this is just to keep up with the elite squad after 2 weeks on a beach!

Anyway - any funny examples, tips on how to escape domestic bliss?

the sci guy 

first i would take the elephant to the zoo. they are expensive and loud and will probably void your lease.

secondly, ask her to cycle with you.

rdtompki

So how is your time allocated? Job 40+ hours/week plus commute say 50 hours total, 56 hours sleep, 10 hours meals, 14 hours cycling. So far that's only 130 hours out of 168. You've got to pay bills, do laundry, whatever.. Maybe night school working toward a law degree. What about video games? You could be an associate in a law firm which would definitely rule out a gf. If you value the relationship you'll make the time.

fietsbob

perhaps you need one of these: https://www.bikeforums.net/showthread...er-lounge-bike

catonec 

maybe try riding early mornings before work.

does the gf work hours that you have off?

maybe bribe her. hours of riding for night out, dinner/movie, household chores???

I work a 12 hour nightshift 5 or 6 nights a week, so its tough to find time to ride and golf. Plus we have a new baby well 9 mo's old. my riding has greatly decreased this past year but I get to ride for equal "mommy time away from baby".

Machka 

Rowan and I "met" on Bikeforums in early 2003, met in person the Paris-Brest-Paris 1200K in France later in 2003 ... cycling was what brought us together and we still cycle together.

Dudelsack 

Phil_gretz

Okay, so you two are perfectly matched. I mean it.

Married 30+ years here. It's always to have matching or co-aligned priorities with your spouse. Whatever those might be. If some activity isn't at least indirectly supporting a priority, it cannot take up more than it's share of the time and energy. That would be an out-of-balance life.

Quarterly questions like "what's important to you?" and "what do you think our priorities for the next year should be?" are good conversation starters. Build your plans around those, and you'll do okay.

It's best to find a cycling crazy person and marry him/her from the start, I'd venture, if cycling is your thing...

phoebeisis

OK-
I will be the jerk-still early not fully tanked on coffee

But there are "numb penis" HRT fot men- Low T type threads here.
If you use a normal saddle-and you probably do because you are interested in speed-and riding in drops-much faster than riding upright
And even with a cutout-it is NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE to put ALL your weight on your "BUTTBONES"-and NONE on your perineum
You Might prefer riding the bike to "spending time" with your SO because you are not " fully competent"
in some ways- because of nerve artery damage.
And some suggestions that overtraining-aerobic overtraining- decreases that "DRIVE" perhaps decreases Testerone.
My POINT-jokingly- don't put any weight on your perineum-it wasn't "built" to support weight
Those who say it is a question of fit-are just WRONG- it is a question of weight in a delicate area not designed for it!

JohnDThompson 

One word: "tandem."

fietsbob

the Counterpoint is kind of like the lounge bike , but the stoker is in front in a recumbent seat.. w pedals.

captain/rider in upright seat, close enough to easily talk to each other during the ride.

@work

Agreed!

knobster

My wife got me into cycling. I've been doing it now for 8 years. Maybe ask her if she'd like to give it a try. Pick her up a nice used bike off craigslist for a couple hundred and see if she likes it.

Jim from Boston

It’s now been 37 years. She doesn’t bike any more, but tolerates my commuting, even after a serious cycling accident last year. Our current mutual activity, besides the family, for the past 20 years has been social ballroom dancing.

martianone

My partner and I have been riding "twogether" for thirty years.
A couple observations,
help HER choose out her own bike, make sure it is equal or better quality than yours.
go places she wants, at her pace.
Plan off bike time with her.

ThermionicScott 

If I haven't seen my girlfriend in a week, the bike can wait!

SGcyclist

Some interesting replies! Working on getting her out on the bike - went down to the bike shop last night in fact! I wrote some of the points up on blog......ummmm hope I can post as a form of reply!!! https://decaironman-training.com/2014...relationships/

Artkansas 

I had several girlfriends who cycled. My ex-wife though did not. So it all depends. I loved them all.

Artkansas 

But elephants are so cool. How could a landlord refuse such a cute little guy as this?

WebFootFreak

My wife and I work opposite shifts. I tend to run or take shorter rides around her schedule. When we are both off (and awake), I bring up riding quite a bit. We've only been out 3 times in the last 2 months, and I have to be careful what I say because she gets frustrated if she thinks she's keeping me from riding the way I like ("fast" and "far"). Thing is, I LOVE the time we're out riding together and can't wait to have the kids with us in the summer.

CB HI

My wife has no interest in cycling, nags me about my cycling, but she brags to her friends about how far I cycle and commute ride.

chandltp

After a few weeks in the summer, my wife tells me to take a long ride. It keeps me more balanced for a while. Winter is tougher, since the exercise bike / trainer doesn't do the same thing for me.

sknhgy 

Been married 21 years. Wife doesn't cycle. Cycling is "my" time. She has hers.

Short Circuit

I started cycling last March as a means to lose weight. I was fully supported by my wife to the point where she wanted a bike to ride with me. And I really enjoy riding with her
But she still encourages me to ride without her because she knows she slows me down.
I also bought a couple of mountain bikes for us to try this year.

Mark

BlazingPedals

I have my bikes, my wife has her horse. It's built-in permission for N+1, IF there's any money left after buying hay.